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[habibekindheart]

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"If you will not fight for the right when you can easily win without bloodshed, if you will not fight when your victory will be sure and not so costly, you may come to the moment when you will have to fight with all the odds against you and only a precarious chance for survival. There may be a worse case. You may have to fight when there is no chance of victory, because it is better to perish than to live as slaves." --- Winston Churchill

Ashleigh Marie | Isaac Matthew

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[sivatonight.livejournal.com]

I am so, so, SO sorry, I thought I responded once I got back from Canada, but maybe I didn't ...

Part of me was in huge shock. Part of me was begging for a mistake ... and then I saw the news articles with those innocent blue eyes, and my heart sank. Things like this ... this should just never happen. Never, never.

I don't have children (yet) so I know that I can't even begin to imagine your pain, your broken heart ... and though my words can't even begin to express it, I am very, truly sorry for your loss.

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

I'd wondered if you had. It was a huge removal to stop some stupid drama. Yes, I should totally be blamed for my son's death and I'm not allowed to grieve *rolls eyes*

You're re-added.

[(Anonymous)]

Hey I haven't commented because I don't know what to say.

Also I was wondering if you'd heard about this.

http://news.enquirer.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20060828/NEWS01/308280025

[marshmallowgoo.livejournal.com]

that was me, sorry I have no idea why it's anon I was signed in?

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

I have no idea...

[sivatonight.livejournal.com]

I appreciate the re-add ...

People actually blame you? Do they have nothing better to talk about? Sheesh.

Tell me who they are. I'll sic one of my Canadian pet moose on them. Moose are mean. ;) (Please excuse my lame attempts at humour.)

[iced-arctica.livejournal.com]

i've been a friend of Abby's for a while now and she has told me about you on many occasions. She just posted tonight about what happened to your son and im truely sorry and my heart goes out to you and your family. I'd love to add you but if you dont feel like dealing with new people in a time like this i understand.

-becky

It's Me Again...

[foxsgurl.livejournal.com]

I search google news everyday to see if they have discovered anything new in your son's case, and I have to say, I knew the system was bad - but this is just beyond belief. I keep waiting to see that at least one of your children has been returned to you, but it seems they just can't get anything right.

If there is anything I can do - writing complaint letters to anyone 'important', letting someone know that even people in Georgia are outraged by this situation - let me know.

Again, I'm very sorry for your loss.

Re: It's Me Again...

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

http://www.freep.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=2006608290417

New article from this morning.

If you like, you can email him and let him know that you're interested in hearing more about this story, etc. The longer people are interested, the more the stories are told and the more hope we have that it won't happen again.

There will be at least 2 more articles from the freep this week that we are aware of. The story today made front page.

Re: It's Me Again...

[foxsgurl.livejournal.com]

That's the one I read. It makes the whole thing even worse - that they knew something in advance I mean. =/

I might e-mail him and see if I can get some more people to e-mail.

Re: It's Me Again...

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

okie dokie. Thank you :)

your story

[terifiedalone.livejournal.com]

I recently ran across your story in the newspaper. Which got me to searching on the web for more information. Hence, I found you here.

I just wanted to tell you how much strenght you have shown through all this. You are obviously an amazing human being to have been through all you ahve been through and still be able to have hope.

I too was in a some what similar situation a couple of years ago. While my story ended well, it was only a matter of sheer will, incrediable good luck and very loving friends that got me through it. The good part about my story is that I never lost my son. He stayed at a friends house for a week while I got my house in order acoording to CPS. I am by no means a filthy person, but I am a pack rat. The CPS were called because a neighbor thoughts a snake had gotten lose in my yard and was concerned for the safety of my son. The snake never actually go out, he was acutally sold to someone because I wasnt confortable wiht him in my home.

Anyway, they knocked on my door and I let them in. Apparently if your walls arent freshly painted, you have a half a sink load of dished and stacks of books, toys and odds and ins in places, yoru home is filthy. Mind you, the trash was empty, my son was clean, he had clean cloths on, and the bed was made. Floor had been swept the day before and there wasnt a speck of garbage or trash anywhere in my home. But it was unfit for my son, so they took him from me. They were going to put him in foster care until I got my house in 'shape'. But I and a friend begged he stay with her in the neighborhood as to not frighten or scare him. They inspected her home. Found it impecable and let him stay there.

That was years ago, but they still stop by occationally. And it is nerve racking. I cant imagine what all these years has done to your heart and soul. Your children are beautiful and I will be praying for them and you.

Thank you for telling your story.

Re: your story

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry that you've had to deal with CPS as well. I've had similar experiences with 'home inspections', and of course, family court/CPS and normal society are two wholly different things and no one understands.

I wish I'd known 9 years ago to never let those people into my home...hard lessons learned.

Re: your story

[terifiedalone.livejournal.com]

Have you read this http://msfitzsofa.shadowraiths.net/?p=521.

I read the true crime blog roll from time to time. Ran across this story this evening. It is touching. And horrifying.

Good will come of this somehow. I hope in part you will get all your children returned to you. I also hope the goverment starts to realize we need to clean up a system badly flawed.

Re: your story

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

I've read it. I haven't talked to them. I noted that they got his number of siblings wrong, but that's not difficult to do.

The government seems to take no responsibility for what CPS does and wishes we'd sweep all the 'mistakes' under the rug for the greater good...they refuse to admit that this 'greater good' isn't for the majority of children they profess to serve.

your family

[(Anonymous)]

Hi,
I do not want to intrude on your grief,but please know y'all are in my heart,and prayers. I think I corrected our mistakes,and I emailed Matt at the e-dress he left,to let y'all know this is coming from my heart...I am so very,very sorry.I wish there was something I could do.We have to change this "system". Don't know how, but we have to.
I would like to be added,but I understand if you don't. I imagine a lot of strangers are approaching you now, and I even ask myself...where the hell were all of us "caring" folks before this happened.We have to keep our heads out the sand, because if we don't, this is going to continue to happen.
I hope you and your children are reunited soon,and that y'all are able to heal eventually. Again, I am so very sorry.
MagZ/Magnolia

Re: your family

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

It appears you don't have an LJ to add, but I'm not adding people for the most part right now.

I wish that people would pay attention before it happens to their child. I did, but a voice alone is rarely heard. Look what it took for people to finally listen to me? My sweet Babu Babu is gone. :(

thank you for responding

[(Anonymous)]

If I knew how to do the LJ thing I would...I emailed from from my private edress,and I'm afraid it may have gone to a spam folder. I am in Michigan...and this whole foster care thing,along with day "care" is out of control.It explains my reaction to this nightmare you are caught in.
I have 4 grandchildren, one that has the same impossible colour blue eyes that lit up Isaacs face...his pictue grabbed my soul. I don't mean to sound maudlin, but my God..I am a stranger,and this is hurting me...if there is ever anything I can do, if you need respite...I'm up North. I can't bear this helplessness. I feel like like grabbing a picket sign and doing something...but what would that accomplish.
Please let me know if our blog ever is inaccurate or upsets you. Try to rest, don't forget to eat and take care of you. Thank you again for responding.

Add Me?

[sweetbastard.livejournal.com]

I am husband to lee93, and I have defended your honor at freep.com :D (Though I don't know if they'll post it.) I'll leave my letter to the editor as a comment on the appropriate entry once you add me.

[tks.livejournal.com]

I am a friend of Tramissa's. She can vouch for me. She's talked about you numerous times, and posted about your beautiful son's murder.

I don't post on LJ much (i'm on blogger and can send you the link if you want though not that interesting LOL!)- but we are on many of the same communities.

Anyways, if you want to friend.. thankyou. If not, I do understand.

Blessings.

foster care comments

[(Anonymous)]

Jen and Matt,
Thought you might like to see the comments by this woman . She really says it all. Hope y'all are doing ok. Magz

http://msfitzsofa.shadowraiths.net/?p=528

[fantacshan1.livejournal.com]

I am on one of your friends -friends list...she talks about you and I actually came across your story a couple of years ago. I would like to be added as a friend...but if not I understand! I do not comment much but I do read :)

Shannon

[sunshine-mama.livejournal.com]

I found you from aper's and djm1975, and know a few of your other friends like sivatonight and her husband revjim. I had read about you on dj's journal and I've had to deal with that CPS crap myself (fortunately nothing huge), and I've added you. If you're still not adding people, I understand. I just thought I'd drop a note to let you know. :)

I hope it's a little better for you now. I know it won't ever be all right again, but I hope it's a little easier to get through the days.

[iamjasonsmom.livejournal.com]

I came across many entries about the story of your son recently and in the parenting community that I am in. I am dreadfully sorry for you losses, I know that after awhile those words are meaningless, I have not experianced the loss of a child but that of a sibling. I am also a sociology student who is very interested in social work and your story boggels my mind, the way you have been treated and the things you have had to indure. I generally am a reader and not a writer, but I would be appreciative if you would add me as a friend, as I will add you. I understand if you do not want to, I just would love to learn more about your story, for it could only help me become better at doing what I feel passionate about, which is helping FAMILIES...as in the children and the parents they are born to. I have a two year old son and could not imagine having to deal with what you have. I commend your strenght (and know that there is nothing that will allow you to stop 'fighting').

[babymomma13.livejournal.com]

Hello, I don't know if this is really appropriate, but I was given your website to visit, and I wanted you to know that my heart has broken for you and your family. From what I have seen, you are a very kind, gentle, and loving person who does not deserve anything that has come your way. I will think of you in the future and wish only the best for you.

You are truly inspiring.