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your story

[terifiedalone.livejournal.com]

I recently ran across your story in the newspaper. Which got me to searching on the web for more information. Hence, I found you here.

I just wanted to tell you how much strenght you have shown through all this. You are obviously an amazing human being to have been through all you ahve been through and still be able to have hope.

I too was in a some what similar situation a couple of years ago. While my story ended well, it was only a matter of sheer will, incrediable good luck and very loving friends that got me through it. The good part about my story is that I never lost my son. He stayed at a friends house for a week while I got my house in order acoording to CPS. I am by no means a filthy person, but I am a pack rat. The CPS were called because a neighbor thoughts a snake had gotten lose in my yard and was concerned for the safety of my son. The snake never actually go out, he was acutally sold to someone because I wasnt confortable wiht him in my home.

Anyway, they knocked on my door and I let them in. Apparently if your walls arent freshly painted, you have a half a sink load of dished and stacks of books, toys and odds and ins in places, yoru home is filthy. Mind you, the trash was empty, my son was clean, he had clean cloths on, and the bed was made. Floor had been swept the day before and there wasnt a speck of garbage or trash anywhere in my home. But it was unfit for my son, so they took him from me. They were going to put him in foster care until I got my house in 'shape'. But I and a friend begged he stay with her in the neighborhood as to not frighten or scare him. They inspected her home. Found it impecable and let him stay there.

That was years ago, but they still stop by occationally. And it is nerve racking. I cant imagine what all these years has done to your heart and soul. Your children are beautiful and I will be praying for them and you.

Thank you for telling your story.

Re: your story

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry that you've had to deal with CPS as well. I've had similar experiences with 'home inspections', and of course, family court/CPS and normal society are two wholly different things and no one understands.

I wish I'd known 9 years ago to never let those people into my home...hard lessons learned.

Re: your story

[terifiedalone.livejournal.com]

Have you read this http://msfitzsofa.shadowraiths.net/?p=521.

I read the true crime blog roll from time to time. Ran across this story this evening. It is touching. And horrifying.

Good will come of this somehow. I hope in part you will get all your children returned to you. I also hope the goverment starts to realize we need to clean up a system badly flawed.

Re: your story

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

I've read it. I haven't talked to them. I noted that they got his number of siblings wrong, but that's not difficult to do.

The government seems to take no responsibility for what CPS does and wishes we'd sweep all the 'mistakes' under the rug for the greater good...they refuse to admit that this 'greater good' isn't for the majority of children they profess to serve.

sorry to butt in, just two cents

[rogueblack.livejournal.com]

Apparently if your walls arent freshly painted, you have a half a sink load of dished and stacks of books, toys and odds and ins in places, yoru home is filthy.

And yet I've been "inspected" by CPS in Florida and in Illinois on different occassions without any problem (and my home sounds about like yours - although I try to fit my packratness into rubbermaid and cabinets). Illinois was for an in-home child care license and Florida was because my son (in first grade) had a fight with a girl where he'd allegedly poked her inappropriately and the school called me to tell me that he'd told the counselor that his biological father had sexually abused him. So, I called CPS to have him interviewed and get to the bottom of it. It turns out that he never said anything of the sort to the counselor (she'd just made it up), and the girl he'd poked identified to the CPS worker that she'd been poked in the stomach, not below, and wasn't bothered by the incident at all. (For the record, I do regret not sueing. I so would've gotten a good settlement on that because there was two weeks left of school and they changed his classroom and treated him like he'd done something horribly wrong!)

Mind you, I'm not saying Illinois and Florida are perfect CPS systems. They are not! A few years ago, Illinois DCFS made police break into a home to steal a child and ended up with the wrong child from the wrong home! A few years ago, Florida had to overhaul their entire CPS system because they'd realized that they'd lost 200,000 children!

When it comes to investigations, I think it's (1) a matter of who calls them and why they're there - if someone else has called them, I think they look for any excuse to take a child and (2) the individual cruelty of the worker. Some get on crusades to steal children from homes for the hell of it. It's a power trip and it's really, really sick.