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[habibekindheart]

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"If you will not fight for the right when you can easily win without bloodshed, if you will not fight when your victory will be sure and not so costly, you may come to the moment when you will have to fight with all the odds against you and only a precarious chance for survival. There may be a worse case. You may have to fight when there is no chance of victory, because it is better to perish than to live as slaves." --- Winston Churchill

Ashleigh Marie | Isaac Matthew

Comments

[sivatonight.livejournal.com]

I was wondering why I hadn't seen any new entries from you in a while, and then I noticed that I had been taken off of your friends' list.

No worries, no harsh feelings ... I just wanted to come back and say that I wish you all the best, and that I'm hoping that one day soon you'll have your babies back in your arms, where they belong.

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

I removed everyone who didn't respond after Isaac's murder. Some people I knew would come back because they'd been AWOL from LJ, and for the most part I've readded them.

[(Anonymous)]

Hey I haven't commented because I don't know what to say.

Also I was wondering if you'd heard about this.

http://news.enquirer.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20060828/NEWS01/308280025

[marshmallowgoo.livejournal.com]

that was me, sorry I have no idea why it's anon I was signed in?

[iced-arctica.livejournal.com]

i've been a friend of Abby's for a while now and she has told me about you on many occasions. She just posted tonight about what happened to your son and im truely sorry and my heart goes out to you and your family. I'd love to add you but if you dont feel like dealing with new people in a time like this i understand.

-becky

your story

[terifiedalone.livejournal.com]

I recently ran across your story in the newspaper. Which got me to searching on the web for more information. Hence, I found you here.

I just wanted to tell you how much strenght you have shown through all this. You are obviously an amazing human being to have been through all you ahve been through and still be able to have hope.

I too was in a some what similar situation a couple of years ago. While my story ended well, it was only a matter of sheer will, incrediable good luck and very loving friends that got me through it. The good part about my story is that I never lost my son. He stayed at a friends house for a week while I got my house in order acoording to CPS. I am by no means a filthy person, but I am a pack rat. The CPS were called because a neighbor thoughts a snake had gotten lose in my yard and was concerned for the safety of my son. The snake never actually go out, he was acutally sold to someone because I wasnt confortable wiht him in my home.

Anyway, they knocked on my door and I let them in. Apparently if your walls arent freshly painted, you have a half a sink load of dished and stacks of books, toys and odds and ins in places, yoru home is filthy. Mind you, the trash was empty, my son was clean, he had clean cloths on, and the bed was made. Floor had been swept the day before and there wasnt a speck of garbage or trash anywhere in my home. But it was unfit for my son, so they took him from me. They were going to put him in foster care until I got my house in 'shape'. But I and a friend begged he stay with her in the neighborhood as to not frighten or scare him. They inspected her home. Found it impecable and let him stay there.

That was years ago, but they still stop by occationally. And it is nerve racking. I cant imagine what all these years has done to your heart and soul. Your children are beautiful and I will be praying for them and you.

Thank you for telling your story.

Re: your story

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry that you've had to deal with CPS as well. I've had similar experiences with 'home inspections', and of course, family court/CPS and normal society are two wholly different things and no one understands.

I wish I'd known 9 years ago to never let those people into my home...hard lessons learned.

your family

[(Anonymous)]

Hi,
I do not want to intrude on your grief,but please know y'all are in my heart,and prayers. I think I corrected our mistakes,and I emailed Matt at the e-dress he left,to let y'all know this is coming from my heart...I am so very,very sorry.I wish there was something I could do.We have to change this "system". Don't know how, but we have to.
I would like to be added,but I understand if you don't. I imagine a lot of strangers are approaching you now, and I even ask myself...where the hell were all of us "caring" folks before this happened.We have to keep our heads out the sand, because if we don't, this is going to continue to happen.
I hope you and your children are reunited soon,and that y'all are able to heal eventually. Again, I am so very sorry.
MagZ/Magnolia

Re: your family

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

It appears you don't have an LJ to add, but I'm not adding people for the most part right now.

I wish that people would pay attention before it happens to their child. I did, but a voice alone is rarely heard. Look what it took for people to finally listen to me? My sweet Babu Babu is gone. :(

thank you for responding

[(Anonymous)]

If I knew how to do the LJ thing I would...I emailed from from my private edress,and I'm afraid it may have gone to a spam folder. I am in Michigan...and this whole foster care thing,along with day "care" is out of control.It explains my reaction to this nightmare you are caught in.
I have 4 grandchildren, one that has the same impossible colour blue eyes that lit up Isaacs face...his pictue grabbed my soul. I don't mean to sound maudlin, but my God..I am a stranger,and this is hurting me...if there is ever anything I can do, if you need respite...I'm up North. I can't bear this helplessness. I feel like like grabbing a picket sign and doing something...but what would that accomplish.
Please let me know if our blog ever is inaccurate or upsets you. Try to rest, don't forget to eat and take care of you. Thank you again for responding.

Add Me?

[sweetbastard.livejournal.com]

I am husband to lee93, and I have defended your honor at freep.com :D (Though I don't know if they'll post it.) I'll leave my letter to the editor as a comment on the appropriate entry once you add me.

[tks.livejournal.com]

I am a friend of Tramissa's. She can vouch for me. She's talked about you numerous times, and posted about your beautiful son's murder.

I don't post on LJ much (i'm on blogger and can send you the link if you want though not that interesting LOL!)- but we are on many of the same communities.

Anyways, if you want to friend.. thankyou. If not, I do understand.

Blessings.

foster care comments

[(Anonymous)]

Jen and Matt,
Thought you might like to see the comments by this woman . She really says it all. Hope y'all are doing ok. Magz

http://msfitzsofa.shadowraiths.net/?p=528

[fantacshan1.livejournal.com]

I am on one of your friends -friends list...she talks about you and I actually came across your story a couple of years ago. I would like to be added as a friend...but if not I understand! I do not comment much but I do read :)

Shannon

[sunshine-mama.livejournal.com]

I found you from aper's and djm1975, and know a few of your other friends like sivatonight and her husband revjim. I had read about you on dj's journal and I've had to deal with that CPS crap myself (fortunately nothing huge), and I've added you. If you're still not adding people, I understand. I just thought I'd drop a note to let you know. :)

I hope it's a little better for you now. I know it won't ever be all right again, but I hope it's a little easier to get through the days.

[iamjasonsmom.livejournal.com]

I came across many entries about the story of your son recently and in the parenting community that I am in. I am dreadfully sorry for you losses, I know that after awhile those words are meaningless, I have not experianced the loss of a child but that of a sibling. I am also a sociology student who is very interested in social work and your story boggels my mind, the way you have been treated and the things you have had to indure. I generally am a reader and not a writer, but I would be appreciative if you would add me as a friend, as I will add you. I understand if you do not want to, I just would love to learn more about your story, for it could only help me become better at doing what I feel passionate about, which is helping FAMILIES...as in the children and the parents they are born to. I have a two year old son and could not imagine having to deal with what you have. I commend your strenght (and know that there is nothing that will allow you to stop 'fighting').

[babymomma13.livejournal.com]

Hello, I don't know if this is really appropriate, but I was given your website to visit, and I wanted you to know that my heart has broken for you and your family. From what I have seen, you are a very kind, gentle, and loving person who does not deserve anything that has come your way. I will think of you in the future and wish only the best for you.

You are truly inspiring.

[chinaraven.livejournal.com]

We have Babs as a mutual friend, and I am pretty sure she'll vouch that I'm a good egg...

Am another michigan native, and completely terrified of the system

[lilylivered.livejournal.com]

sorry for typos or general inarticulate wording, have sleeping infant in one arm.

i found you randomly online, to be honest not sure how - just cruising thru lj. i don't avtually hve any credentials. ;) then i heard about what happened. i am shocked, disgusted... and terrified. i am not a filthy person, but by no means am i neat. what if they try to take my baby away??

i myself have dealt with cps but for entirely different reasons, and i must say i despise them. my m,other actually WAS negligent, but they seized me from the home at 15 for truancy and cutting. they gave me a choice of where to go but they completely lied to me about where. they claimed that this place, andromeda house, was like an independent living program, and told my mother that the place was equipped to deal with my eating disorder and si (neither of which are issues now, incidentally). bullshit. i had to ask permission to move from room to room. uniforms... no music.. no outdoors... only allowed to call my mom once a week for 15 mins... family 6 hours away.. it was hell. they claimed they didnt 'cater' to vegetarians, so although i had started getting my period again during the 3 mos previous that i had been in an emergency shelter, but at AH i gained a ton of weight and stopped menstruating. they cleard up that issue during my 4th mo. or so when the genius director of the program discovered that the law said they HAD to cater to me. i spent 6 mos there.

i thought THAT was bad. i am so fucking appalled. they say you're an unfit mother? did they even fucking check on the foster parents? plz prdon my language. i have such a red bloody rage for the system.

my arm is aching from this 1 handed typing. i just want to say that my heart is aching for you - so much so that i have asked my hetero lifemate to chant for you [she is a practitioner of daishonin buddhism] - i hope you're not offended that i shared what little i know of your story w/her.

you don't really have to add me, tho i had thought a/b adding you before i knew of your story - but your friend of list is pretty intimidating. i just want you to know that there are people out there who are rooting for you.

[sweetspaci.livejournal.com]

I stumbled upon your geocities site in someone else's livejournal...You ahve survived more in this lifetime than is imaginable. I pray for fortune to shine upon you, and that you get the happiness and peace you deserve. I had something similar happen in my ex-husband's family, with overzealous CPS workers who had nothing on their mind's but terminating parental rights...it's the most maddening, heartbreaking thing in the world.
I will pray for your family, honey.

[gimmestarbucks.livejournal.com]

Hi. :)

You don't know me but I saw your name mentioned a few times and I've read your heartbreaking story. I can't believe the things people say and think is acceptable because they are behind a computer monitor.

Anyway, I'm sure you're flooded with comments and people from livejournal adding you, but I just think I could learn a lot from you and hopefully you have room for one more livejournal friend.

[rogueblack.livejournal.com]

I wanted to tell you that I'm sorry for what has happened. I don't know what events led to Emma and Isaac being taken since we'd parted ways before I knew you were having another baby and I'm very sorry to find out that such tragedy has come to your family again. It's unspeakable and unthinkable. My condolences for the loss of Ashleigh. I'm not even sure of what to say about the loss of Isaac. It doesn't feel like it's possible, but it's happened. I can't imagine what you must be feeling. I am so sorry. I hope the lawsuit continues and some restitution is made and some changes are made in the system. Do you have a donation fund for your legal fees?

[rogueblack.livejournal.com]

Oh, and I got here because there was someone on your friends list who'd said something purely ridiculous on a community I'm on and I was checking out her userinfo and saw your username. Once I saw your username, I was too curious and had to see how things are for you. Needless to say, I was expecting to see something much better than I did. I googled and found the Detroit Free Press article. Again, I am very sorry.

[labellerose.livejournal.com]

As with others who have commented, you don't know me, but my heart goes out to you and you family. I am here via Erin, 'ladyofthelog' who will vouch for me.

You and I have much in common , I think. I have a 17 year old daughter with Autism, as well as other children. As to what we h ave in common--- Yesterday, I was very ill with a UTI. I was hauling myself up and down the stairs, shaking with chills and fever, because people from an agency that supposedly wants to 'help' me had invited themselves over. I knew damn well that I better have the kitchen mopped and the stairway vacuumed and the laundry put away before they got here. So rest assured that I 'get it' and that even if you are not going to add me at this time, I wish you well.

[greatdane1234.livejournal.com]

Hi,
I just finished reading your journal and I am sickened by what has happened to you. I would like to be added, so that I could read more. Please let me know if you have objections to that. I am new at this LJ thing, so I'm not really sure how this works.
Thanks,
Nancy

[chickensquat.livejournal.com]

Hey, I used to be lilith_storm, if you remember me. Anyway, new journal, new name, hoping to be back on your friends list.

Hi Jen

[rrosebunch.livejournal.com]

I was thinking about you and was wondering how you were getting on... Just wanted you to know that I thought about you.
Roslynn

Re: Hi Jen

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

Hey Roslynn,

Hanging in there, much as I can I suppose. Been really busy trying to keep up with court cases and work. It's a zoo.

How've you been?

Jen

[daladyaphrodite.livejournal.com]

Hey. I know things got really bumpy for a while so I thought perhaps that's why you weren't updating. I realized today that actually, I had been removed as a friend (or maybe I was never added?) It's totally cool, I'm not upset or anything, but I was kind of curious as to why. You don't have to answer, and I'll still be by occasionally to see how things are going. I think of you and your children often, Jen, you are all in my heart.

[s1m0n.livejournal.com]

You and your family are always in my thoughts.
I've been looking through your website and story again.
Everytime I read it I cry.
I just want you to know that I'm sending positive
energy to you, all your little ones and your family.

May the holidays be peaceful.
If you ever need an ear, know that I'm always around.

~ Morgan

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much, Morgan. I think of you and your darling daughter as well.

[alasse-wolf.livejournal.com]

I'm not even done with reading your story on geocities and yet I feel as if I will never stop weeping for you.

Your story has so many elements that resemble what my family has gone through this year, and yet the hell that we have gone through with being separated from our children is NOTHING in comparison to what you have gone through.

My heart breaks for you and your family for what you have gone through and I seriously can't fathom how you have managed to make it through. But the fact that you and your family have managed to survive is.......amazing.

The funny thing is that I've had so many people say pretty much the same thing to me over the course of the year after my 2 children were taken by CPS. I suppose I don't necessarily know how we've made it this far, but we have and I'm hoping that this upcoming year goes far better than 2006.

May I add you?