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[habibekindheart]

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"If you will not fight for the right when you can easily win without bloodshed, if you will not fight when your victory will be sure and not so costly, you may come to the moment when you will have to fight with all the odds against you and only a precarious chance for survival. There may be a worse case. You may have to fight when there is no chance of victory, because it is better to perish than to live as slaves." --- Winston Churchill

Ashleigh Marie | Isaac Matthew

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[lyricmaniac.livejournal.com]

RX wrote about you and told me that you are not at all like what they write about you. I'd like to find that out for myself. If you're willing to have me add you, please let me know.

[apeystar.livejournal.com]

Heya doll,
I'm BFF's with Joy and she has spoken very highly of you for a long time. Would you like to flist each other? *smiles*

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

Might as well...then we can talk smack about Joybeans til she slaps us :)

[empressmiaka.livejournal.com]

I'd like to add you. I'm a friend of withtraffic and I also live in the Metro Detroit area. I've read the articles about your story and I'd like to learn more about you, if you don't mind.

[hairpasta.livejournal.com]

Hello, my name is Heather.

I've heard about you in different communities on livejournal and I just want to say I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I can't imagine the heartbreak you and your husband have faced. I wish you hope and healing.

I'd like to add you, if that's okay. But if not, I understand.

[ladygaia87.livejournal.com]

Hey. I know you don't know me, but I've been keeping up with your story, I read your website, and I'd really like to be friended, if that's okay. I hate it that so many people are judging you when they don't even KNOW you, and from what I've seen of you on communities, and your website, you really are a good person. So, friend me? If you don't want to, I understand.

[reluctantvixen.livejournal.com]

Hi, I'm Melissa Sue from Cbirth. I added you, but you don't have to add me if you don't want to. We have some things in common; some things I don't like to talk about, but its there in my lj if looked for long enough.

I wish you the best.

[salvationsoul.livejournal.com]

I have heard your story and my heart breaks for you and your husband, I can not even imagine the thought of CPS coming and taking my son. I would really like to friend you - this journal is brand new due to an old "friend" on my old LJ, but I will send you my old name if you want to make sure I'm no troll.

God bless.

[emfish.livejournal.com]

Hello,
Just wanted to stop by and introduce myself! I noticed that you have both Oh_rissa and babyslime on your friends list, as do I. Already this tells me that you are an awesome person. I read your story years ago, and my heart broke for you then. Catching up, I see that you've suffered additional, unspeakable loss, and my heart is breaking for you all over again. I'd like to add you to my list, if you don't mind? Either way, you'll be in my prayers.
Stay strong, mama.
-Emmy

[jenrose]

Just letting you know I added you, and have read your story and am heartbroken to hear about Ashleigh and Isaac. So deeply wrong, I can't even fathom. We have friends in common, just wanted to let you know I read, I cried, I'm here.

I was a foster care parent once... and was disheartened through the process at how completely bogged down the system was, and how badly it treated most of the people in it on every level. So many foster parents with no clue about teaching children how to have long term attachments. So many caseworkers on autopilot and in "foot drag" mode to the detriment of babies. I had one wee boy in my care for 3 months, and had to fight so hard for things like him getting to see his parents... him having contact with his extended family---and ultimately, the state was foot dragging so bad that it took me basically forcing the issue by threatening to quit being his foster parent to get him permanently placed in a kinship situation with his brothers--they would have left him with me to 18 months and then moved him, I could not reconcile how poorly they understood basic child development that they would rather move a baby at 18 months rather than 3. And that *was* in a case involving drugs, in a case where actual neglect was proven, where the parents didn't do the work or seem to even care about being involved. It took so much fight to do right by that baby, who needed the help, and for the state to foot drag your children to death... so criminal, I can't stand it.

Not to mention that my own housekeeping skills are rudimentary enough that the idea of someone coming into my home and judging my parenting based on how clean things are... the notion is terrifying. If it can happen to you, it can happen to any of us.

My husband is a defense lawyer, he often does PD work for parents caught in the system, and says it seems like no matter what, CPS will always get it wrong. They will never take the children who are really in danger, and will always harass parents who are not dangerous to their children.

Anyway... I'm not going to ask to be added--if you want to add me, I don't mind, but I understand if you are not comfortable. I haven't asked before because I didn't know how you'd feel with someone who'd been on the 'other side' of a foster care situation.

[jdcscott-06.livejournal.com]

I read your story and while I know hearing "I'm sorry" does not even come close to healing the pain.. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[ser-kai.livejournal.com]

I just read your story. Just dropping by to say I'm sorry you've had to deal with so much. Noone should have to deal with that.

Naiiad

[ser-kai.livejournal.com]

I'd like to add that I'm the autistic mother of three boys. My biggest fear has been losing my kids. For a couple of years, I felt it would very possibly happen. My government chose to give me more support, instead. I wish yours had done the same.

[violentrayne.livejournal.com]

hey hun! this is the user formerly known as raynesotd,
and before that, stainedbeauty. Iv been without internet for a loong time and now I have it and i miss you!

friend me?

[journeytoernie.livejournal.com]

long time no speak. i'm back online after a long break. i decided to find you and figure out what you are up to.

i dont know what to say about your kids. there arent' any words. what happened with the state?

[(Anonymous)]

I'm very sad because I've been deleted by you. :(

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

but who ARE you?

[pursuer.livejournal.com]

I looked up "traditional families" in the search section of LJ, and you and one other person popped up besides me. I feel that it was seriously God's hand at work in finding your LJ. I went to your geocities page and read your story. My heart wept.
Then, I went into my little girl's room to watch her sleep, as I had such a rough day with my family today, and felt so convicted by your story.
I pulled her on my lap, and held her and cried. I cried for me because I can't imagine that happening... and I cried for you. I won't even say I am sorry, because that is just not enough.
I am going to friend you. I don't expect you to friend me, and that is okay. But I am a faithful prayer warrior, and I want you to know I am going to pray for you, your husband, and all of your darling children for the next month faithfully, every day.
I want to make so many people aware of your situation, but not sure how to go about it in the right way... the way that will be beneficial to you. I know you don't know me, but I am a housewife, with more free time than the average person who works outside the home. I want to help in any way, but I will start with prayer, and if there's anything else I can do to help... well, I am on here.

[approachmdnight.livejournal.com]

Wow, you seem like such an interesting multi-faceted person. Please add me back. :D

[tikizeekbaby.livejournal.com]

I know it does little to ease your pain, but I'm glad they finally convicted the cow that killed Issac.

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much.

Re: Can I get added as a friend?

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

Added :)

[placebo-effectz.livejournal.com]

Hey! This is Cyn (tribal_huntress)... I'm over here now & I miss reading your LJ! OH, and I'm 31w2days pregnant now. ♥ Add me?

[marybethorama.livejournal.com]

Hi I'm Mary Beth aka "marybethorama" from Mothering and I'm a friend of Jen (attillathehoney)

I'd like to be on your list.

I can be reached by email at marybethorama at gmail dot com if you want to contact me privately.

Thanks

[destinymanifest.livejournal.com]

Hello, I added you. I hope you don't mind. I'm pregnant with my first, and interested in relating to other moms on LJ.

[silverlight-glo.livejournal.com]

Hey. I'm so sorry these things have happend to you and your family. It's an injustice.

This is a song by the Goo Goo Dolls called "Better Days". http://youtube.com/watch?v=_BlX0SpIbuU

Stay strong.

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

Thank you :)

This is Isaac's song http://youtube.com/watch?v=kMwFQ7K03Rs

American Baby, by Dave Matthews

[out-of-mana.livejournal.com]

Hi!
We have some mutual friends & we've both got lots of kids... so I friended you :)

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

Howdy :)

[lizziey.livejournal.com]

We spoke a long time ago, and were emailing one another. I asked to be added before, and got no comment either way.

Can I add?

[mandasmama1.livejournal.com]

I seem to have been removed from your fl...did I do something to offend you?? I'm kind of confused...I'm not always very vocal commentwise these days, but I'm always here reading along.

[habibekindheart.livejournal.com]

There you are! I was wondering if you'd disappeared. I did a sweep of people who didn't update their LJs. I'll re-add you :)