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"If you will not fight for the right when you can easily win without bloodshed, if you will not fight when your victory will be sure and not so costly, you may come to the moment when you will have to fight with all the odds against you and only a precarious chance for survival. There may be a worse case. You may have to fight when there is no chance of victory, because it is better to perish than to live as slaves." --- Winston Churchill
Ashleigh Marie | Isaac Matthew




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Date: 2006-10-23 11:56 pm (UTC)Am another michigan native, and completely terrified of the system
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Date: 2006-10-24 08:12 am (UTC)i found you randomly online, to be honest not sure how - just cruising thru lj. i don't avtually hve any credentials. ;) then i heard about what happened. i am shocked, disgusted... and terrified. i am not a filthy person, but by no means am i neat. what if they try to take my baby away??
i myself have dealt with cps but for entirely different reasons, and i must say i despise them. my m,other actually WAS negligent, but they seized me from the home at 15 for truancy and cutting. they gave me a choice of where to go but they completely lied to me about where. they claimed that this place, andromeda house, was like an independent living program, and told my mother that the place was equipped to deal with my eating disorder and si (neither of which are issues now, incidentally). bullshit. i had to ask permission to move from room to room. uniforms... no music.. no outdoors... only allowed to call my mom once a week for 15 mins... family 6 hours away.. it was hell. they claimed they didnt 'cater' to vegetarians, so although i had started getting my period again during the 3 mos previous that i had been in an emergency shelter, but at AH i gained a ton of weight and stopped menstruating. they cleard up that issue during my 4th mo. or so when the genius director of the program discovered that the law said they HAD to cater to me. i spent 6 mos there.
i thought THAT was bad. i am so fucking appalled. they say you're an unfit mother? did they even fucking check on the foster parents? plz prdon my language. i have such a red bloody rage for the system.
my arm is aching from this 1 handed typing. i just want to say that my heart is aching for you - so much so that i have asked my hetero lifemate to chant for you [she is a practitioner of daishonin buddhism] - i hope you're not offended that i shared what little i know of your story w/her.
you don't really have to add me, tho i had thought a/b adding you before i knew of your story - but your friend of list is pretty intimidating. i just want you to know that there are people out there who are rooting for you.
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Date: 2006-10-24 06:52 pm (UTC)I will pray for your family, honey.
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Date: 2006-10-24 09:06 pm (UTC)You don't know me but I saw your name mentioned a few times and I've read your heartbreaking story. I can't believe the things people say and think is acceptable because they are behind a computer monitor.
Anyway, I'm sure you're flooded with comments and people from livejournal adding you, but I just think I could learn a lot from you and hopefully you have room for one more livejournal friend.
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Date: 2006-11-08 09:56 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-11-08 09:59 pm (UTC)sorry to butt in, just two cents
Date: 2006-11-08 10:16 pm (UTC)And yet I've been "inspected" by CPS in Florida and in Illinois on different occassions without any problem (and my home sounds about like yours - although I try to fit my packratness into rubbermaid and cabinets). Illinois was for an in-home child care license and Florida was because my son (in first grade) had a fight with a girl where he'd allegedly poked her inappropriately and the school called me to tell me that he'd told the counselor that his biological father had sexually abused him. So, I called CPS to have him interviewed and get to the bottom of it. It turns out that he never said anything of the sort to the counselor (she'd just made it up), and the girl he'd poked identified to the CPS worker that she'd been poked in the stomach, not below, and wasn't bothered by the incident at all. (For the record, I do regret not sueing. I so would've gotten a good settlement on that because there was two weeks left of school and they changed his classroom and treated him like he'd done something horribly wrong!)
Mind you, I'm not saying Illinois and Florida are perfect CPS systems. They are not! A few years ago, Illinois DCFS made police break into a home to steal a child and ended up with the wrong child from the wrong home! A few years ago, Florida had to overhaul their entire CPS system because they'd realized that they'd lost 200,000 children!
When it comes to investigations, I think it's (1) a matter of who calls them and why they're there - if someone else has called them, I think they look for any excuse to take a child and (2) the individual cruelty of the worker. Some get on crusades to steal children from homes for the hell of it. It's a power trip and it's really, really sick.
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Date: 2006-11-11 03:54 am (UTC)You and I have much in common , I think. I have a 17 year old daughter with Autism, as well as other children. As to what we h ave in common--- Yesterday, I was very ill with a UTI. I was hauling myself up and down the stairs, shaking with chills and fever, because people from an agency that supposedly wants to 'help' me had invited themselves over. I knew damn well that I better have the kitchen mopped and the stairway vacuumed and the laundry put away before they got here. So rest assured that I 'get it' and that even if you are not going to add me at this time, I wish you well.
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Date: 2006-11-14 03:47 am (UTC)I just finished reading your journal and I am sickened by what has happened to you. I would like to be added, so that I could read more. Please let me know if you have objections to that. I am new at this LJ thing, so I'm not really sure how this works.
Thanks,
Nancy
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Date: 2006-11-16 06:09 am (UTC)Hi Jen
Date: 2006-11-27 04:13 am (UTC)Roslynn
Re: Hi Jen
Date: 2006-11-27 05:59 am (UTC)Hanging in there, much as I can I suppose. Been really busy trying to keep up with court cases and work. It's a zoo.
How've you been?
Jen
Re: Hi Jen
Date: 2006-11-27 02:01 pm (UTC)My sister is *trying* to do better right now so that is a good thing. I would hate for her to loose her kids and then grow up. ::: sigh:::
So I take care of her two kids during the week now that she has a job.
I lost my job recently and the union is fighting to get it back. Long stupid story there. I am liking the time off. ;)
I am looking to move, and with that I am going to open my home to adopting a large sibling group, which is what made me think of you. I will be dealing with CPS making tons of unfounded acusations against me I am sure. I was thinking about fostering, but that is a entire ball of worms that would so suck. Sitting by as I watch someone's kids that I totally know should have their children back... or on the opposite end, watching children go back home when they truely are being abused...
Anyway... That turned into a long bla...
I was thinking about your journey in life and felt that I was at a loss. I don't know really what to say. I felt out of the loop I guess. Like I was missing something so I thought I would reconnect with you and say hello.
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Date: 2006-12-11 02:27 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-12-13 10:23 pm (UTC)I've been looking through your website and story again.
Everytime I read it I cry.
I just want you to know that I'm sending positive
energy to you, all your little ones and your family.
May the holidays be peaceful.
If you ever need an ear, know that I'm always around.
~ Morgan
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Date: 2006-12-13 10:58 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-12-31 10:54 pm (UTC)Your story has so many elements that resemble what my family has gone through this year, and yet the hell that we have gone through with being separated from our children is NOTHING in comparison to what you have gone through.
My heart breaks for you and your family for what you have gone through and I seriously can't fathom how you have managed to make it through. But the fact that you and your family have managed to survive is.......amazing.
The funny thing is that I've had so many people say pretty much the same thing to me over the course of the year after my 2 children were taken by CPS. I suppose I don't necessarily know how we've made it this far, but we have and I'm hoping that this upcoming year goes far better than 2006.
May I add you?
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Date: 2007-01-03 12:18 pm (UTC)thank you so much. i just thought i would explain why i asked for it to be screened.
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Date: 2007-01-03 03:59 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-01-29 03:53 am (UTC)♥
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Date: 2007-01-30 08:45 pm (UTC)Mary
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Date: 2007-01-31 03:17 am (UTC)hello
Date: 2007-02-03 10:44 pm (UTC)I read about your son Isaac and his sister on MDC forum and I can't stop thinking about it. It breaks my heart! As a mother, I can't imagine the pain you have suffered. My prayers are with you and your family. I added you as a friend, I hope you don't mind, and I hope you will add me too.
Beth
Sorry Jen!
Date: 2007-02-05 01:10 am (UTC)Best Wishes
-Nicole
Re: Sorry Jen!
Date: 2007-02-05 03:19 am (UTC)