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"If you will not fight for the right when you can easily win without bloodshed, if you will not fight when your victory will be sure and not so costly, you may come to the moment when you will have to fight with all the odds against you and only a precarious chance for survival. There may be a worse case. You may have to fight when there is no chance of victory, because it is better to perish than to live as slaves." --- Winston Churchill

Ashleigh Marie | Isaac Matthew





Date: 2006-10-23 11:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] chinaraven.livejournal.com
We have Babs as a mutual friend, and I am pretty sure she'll vouch that I'm a good egg...

Am another michigan native, and completely terrified of the system

Date: 2006-10-24 08:12 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lilylivered.livejournal.com
sorry for typos or general inarticulate wording, have sleeping infant in one arm.

i found you randomly online, to be honest not sure how - just cruising thru lj. i don't avtually hve any credentials. ;) then i heard about what happened. i am shocked, disgusted... and terrified. i am not a filthy person, but by no means am i neat. what if they try to take my baby away??

i myself have dealt with cps but for entirely different reasons, and i must say i despise them. my m,other actually WAS negligent, but they seized me from the home at 15 for truancy and cutting. they gave me a choice of where to go but they completely lied to me about where. they claimed that this place, andromeda house, was like an independent living program, and told my mother that the place was equipped to deal with my eating disorder and si (neither of which are issues now, incidentally). bullshit. i had to ask permission to move from room to room. uniforms... no music.. no outdoors... only allowed to call my mom once a week for 15 mins... family 6 hours away.. it was hell. they claimed they didnt 'cater' to vegetarians, so although i had started getting my period again during the 3 mos previous that i had been in an emergency shelter, but at AH i gained a ton of weight and stopped menstruating. they cleard up that issue during my 4th mo. or so when the genius director of the program discovered that the law said they HAD to cater to me. i spent 6 mos there.

i thought THAT was bad. i am so fucking appalled. they say you're an unfit mother? did they even fucking check on the foster parents? plz prdon my language. i have such a red bloody rage for the system.

my arm is aching from this 1 handed typing. i just want to say that my heart is aching for you - so much so that i have asked my hetero lifemate to chant for you [she is a practitioner of daishonin buddhism] - i hope you're not offended that i shared what little i know of your story w/her.

you don't really have to add me, tho i had thought a/b adding you before i knew of your story - but your friend of list is pretty intimidating. i just want you to know that there are people out there who are rooting for you.

Date: 2006-10-24 06:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sweetspaci.livejournal.com
I stumbled upon your geocities site in someone else's livejournal...You ahve survived more in this lifetime than is imaginable. I pray for fortune to shine upon you, and that you get the happiness and peace you deserve. I had something similar happen in my ex-husband's family, with overzealous CPS workers who had nothing on their mind's but terminating parental rights...it's the most maddening, heartbreaking thing in the world.
I will pray for your family, honey.

Date: 2006-10-24 09:06 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] gimmestarbucks.livejournal.com
Hi. :)

You don't know me but I saw your name mentioned a few times and I've read your heartbreaking story. I can't believe the things people say and think is acceptable because they are behind a computer monitor.

Anyway, I'm sure you're flooded with comments and people from livejournal adding you, but I just think I could learn a lot from you and hopefully you have room for one more livejournal friend.

Date: 2006-11-08 09:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rogueblack.livejournal.com
I wanted to tell you that I'm sorry for what has happened. I don't know what events led to Emma and Isaac being taken since we'd parted ways before I knew you were having another baby and I'm very sorry to find out that such tragedy has come to your family again. It's unspeakable and unthinkable. My condolences for the loss of Ashleigh. I'm not even sure of what to say about the loss of Isaac. It doesn't feel like it's possible, but it's happened. I can't imagine what you must be feeling. I am so sorry. I hope the lawsuit continues and some restitution is made and some changes are made in the system. Do you have a donation fund for your legal fees?

Date: 2006-11-08 09:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rogueblack.livejournal.com
Oh, and I got here because there was someone on your friends list who'd said something purely ridiculous on a community I'm on and I was checking out her userinfo and saw your username. Once I saw your username, I was too curious and had to see how things are for you. Needless to say, I was expecting to see something much better than I did. I googled and found the Detroit Free Press article. Again, I am very sorry.

sorry to butt in, just two cents

Date: 2006-11-08 10:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rogueblack.livejournal.com
Apparently if your walls arent freshly painted, you have a half a sink load of dished and stacks of books, toys and odds and ins in places, yoru home is filthy.

And yet I've been "inspected" by CPS in Florida and in Illinois on different occassions without any problem (and my home sounds about like yours - although I try to fit my packratness into rubbermaid and cabinets). Illinois was for an in-home child care license and Florida was because my son (in first grade) had a fight with a girl where he'd allegedly poked her inappropriately and the school called me to tell me that he'd told the counselor that his biological father had sexually abused him. So, I called CPS to have him interviewed and get to the bottom of it. It turns out that he never said anything of the sort to the counselor (she'd just made it up), and the girl he'd poked identified to the CPS worker that she'd been poked in the stomach, not below, and wasn't bothered by the incident at all. (For the record, I do regret not sueing. I so would've gotten a good settlement on that because there was two weeks left of school and they changed his classroom and treated him like he'd done something horribly wrong!)

Mind you, I'm not saying Illinois and Florida are perfect CPS systems. They are not! A few years ago, Illinois DCFS made police break into a home to steal a child and ended up with the wrong child from the wrong home! A few years ago, Florida had to overhaul their entire CPS system because they'd realized that they'd lost 200,000 children!

When it comes to investigations, I think it's (1) a matter of who calls them and why they're there - if someone else has called them, I think they look for any excuse to take a child and (2) the individual cruelty of the worker. Some get on crusades to steal children from homes for the hell of it. It's a power trip and it's really, really sick.

Date: 2006-11-11 03:54 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] labellerose.livejournal.com
As with others who have commented, you don't know me, but my heart goes out to you and you family. I am here via Erin, 'ladyofthelog' who will vouch for me.

You and I have much in common , I think. I have a 17 year old daughter with Autism, as well as other children. As to what we h ave in common--- Yesterday, I was very ill with a UTI. I was hauling myself up and down the stairs, shaking with chills and fever, because people from an agency that supposedly wants to 'help' me had invited themselves over. I knew damn well that I better have the kitchen mopped and the stairway vacuumed and the laundry put away before they got here. So rest assured that I 'get it' and that even if you are not going to add me at this time, I wish you well.

Date: 2006-11-14 03:47 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] greatdane1234.livejournal.com
Hi,
I just finished reading your journal and I am sickened by what has happened to you. I would like to be added, so that I could read more. Please let me know if you have objections to that. I am new at this LJ thing, so I'm not really sure how this works.
Thanks,
Nancy

Date: 2006-11-16 06:09 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] chickensquat.livejournal.com
Hey, I used to be lilith_storm, if you remember me. Anyway, new journal, new name, hoping to be back on your friends list.

Hi Jen

Date: 2006-11-27 04:13 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rrosebunch.livejournal.com
I was thinking about you and was wondering how you were getting on... Just wanted you to know that I thought about you.
Roslynn

Re: Hi Jen

Date: 2006-11-27 05:59 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] habibekindheart.livejournal.com
Hey Roslynn,

Hanging in there, much as I can I suppose. Been really busy trying to keep up with court cases and work. It's a zoo.

How've you been?

Jen

Re: Hi Jen

Date: 2006-11-27 02:01 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rrosebunch.livejournal.com
Hanging in there. I keep a lot of my journal private now just because. You know how that goes.

My sister is *trying* to do better right now so that is a good thing. I would hate for her to loose her kids and then grow up. ::: sigh:::

So I take care of her two kids during the week now that she has a job.

I lost my job recently and the union is fighting to get it back. Long stupid story there. I am liking the time off. ;)

I am looking to move, and with that I am going to open my home to adopting a large sibling group, which is what made me think of you. I will be dealing with CPS making tons of unfounded acusations against me I am sure. I was thinking about fostering, but that is a entire ball of worms that would so suck. Sitting by as I watch someone's kids that I totally know should have their children back... or on the opposite end, watching children go back home when they truely are being abused...

Anyway... That turned into a long bla...

I was thinking about your journey in life and felt that I was at a loss. I don't know really what to say. I felt out of the loop I guess. Like I was missing something so I thought I would reconnect with you and say hello.

Date: 2006-12-11 02:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] daladyaphrodite.livejournal.com
Hey. I know things got really bumpy for a while so I thought perhaps that's why you weren't updating. I realized today that actually, I had been removed as a friend (or maybe I was never added?) It's totally cool, I'm not upset or anything, but I was kind of curious as to why. You don't have to answer, and I'll still be by occasionally to see how things are going. I think of you and your children often, Jen, you are all in my heart.

Date: 2006-12-13 10:23 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] s1m0n.livejournal.com
You and your family are always in my thoughts.
I've been looking through your website and story again.
Everytime I read it I cry.
I just want you to know that I'm sending positive
energy to you, all your little ones and your family.

May the holidays be peaceful.
If you ever need an ear, know that I'm always around.

~ Morgan

Date: 2006-12-13 10:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] habibekindheart.livejournal.com
Thank you so much, Morgan. I think of you and your darling daughter as well.

Date: 2006-12-31 10:54 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] alasse-wolf.livejournal.com
I'm not even done with reading your story on geocities and yet I feel as if I will never stop weeping for you.

Your story has so many elements that resemble what my family has gone through this year, and yet the hell that we have gone through with being separated from our children is NOTHING in comparison to what you have gone through.

My heart breaks for you and your family for what you have gone through and I seriously can't fathom how you have managed to make it through. But the fact that you and your family have managed to survive is.......amazing.

The funny thing is that I've had so many people say pretty much the same thing to me over the course of the year after my 2 children were taken by CPS. I suppose I don't necessarily know how we've made it this far, but we have and I'm hoping that this upcoming year goes far better than 2006.

May I add you?

Date: 2007-01-03 12:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] agateway.livejournal.com
i've hidden where i live now - we moved secretly, my child and i, so that's the main reason why i want that screened. her birth father, a man who beat me and shook her, tried to kidnap her (only to hurt me, as he said) after he signed over his rights 8 years ago now. i live petrified that he or some other nightmare of a person will find us and try to hurt us again.

thank you so much. i just thought i would explain why i asked for it to be screened.

Date: 2007-01-03 03:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pink-teacups.livejournal.com
Add me? You seem nice!

Date: 2007-01-29 03:53 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pxyjuice.livejournal.com
Hey. We havent really talked much on AMW but I just wanted to let you know I heard about your son and I am so sorry! I know that nothing I can say will help you but know that we are all keeping you and yours in our thoughts and prayers!

Date: 2007-01-30 08:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] austin-mama.livejournal.com
Hi Jen! I am marymamma from MDC and I have been following your story and have been sending lots of prayers your way. I just wanted to let you know that I support you and I hope you are able to get your children back soon. It really breaks my heart how you and your family have been treated. I would love to be added as your friend. I continue to keep you and your children in my thoughts and prayers.

Mary

Date: 2007-01-31 03:17 am (UTC)

hello

Date: 2007-02-03 10:44 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] bethkay02.livejournal.com
Hi, I just joined live journal and am looking to add friends.
I read about your son Isaac and his sister on MDC forum and I can't stop thinking about it. It breaks my heart! As a mother, I can't imagine the pain you have suffered. My prayers are with you and your family. I added you as a friend, I hope you don't mind, and I hope you will add me too.

Beth

Sorry Jen!

Date: 2007-02-05 01:10 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] thirstfordreams.livejournal.com
Hey Jennifer.. Don't know if you remember me.. my user name on here use to be xchocaholicx and you had helped me through a hard time when cps in Hawaii had taken my child away from me. I wanted to thank you for all your support and wanted to offer mine back to you. I am back in Michigan now and got the newspaper with the article about Isaac and I am so sorry.. I know my apologies won't bring him back but I am here if you need me. He was a beautiful baby just like all of your beautiful children and reading about him makes me really consider becoming a social worker.. but not the ones against the REAL parents.. but one who watches over the foster families in our fucked up system.. I really hope you are doing well and if you need to talk at all you can reach me on here or email me at redinhawaii06@excite.com
Best Wishes
-Nicole

Re: Sorry Jen!

Date: 2007-02-05 03:19 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] thirstfordreams.livejournal.com
I also wanted to let you know that my son Toby is being officially adopted by the family he was with when we first started talking and he is in a really good home thankfully and still remains in Hawaii til 2008 when his family will be retiring from the Navy and moving to NY. I will be able to see him again then if I can't afford to fly back to Hawaii.. They agreed to let me stay in his life. I am thankful for that and thought you might like to hear that. On another note of hope I did give birth to another baby boy a year ago January 11th by my current fiance and after fighting the system for the first 10 months of his life I have sole legal and physical custody. They finally see me as a good parent and I could have fought for my other little boy but he was so happy where he was so in my heart I thought he was best off there.. so I hope this gives you hope for your future that not everything is going to end up bad.. I know you do handle everything with much grace but even the strongest of us lose hope and I never want you to lose hope. Just do what you gotta do and do it proudly!
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